Stop Fighting!
without stuffing your feelings
or sacrificing your needs
9-Week Private NVC Coaching Program for Couples
You and your partner love each other, but you're struggling to get along.
👎 Your relationship has become a source of stress, rather than the source of happiness it used to be.
👎 You're frustrated with the fruitless fights and the endless list of complaints.
👎 You're talking past each other, circling the same arguments over and over again.
Imagine if you and your partner could...
✔ Know exactly what steps to take anytime a conflict arises so you both feel heard, seen, and understood.
✔ Talk through the hard things constructively - without it escalating into an argument - and finally resolve your issues.
✔ Feel closer, happier, and hopeful again about your future together.
The relationship of your dreams is possible!
You just have to learn + apply some simple-yet-profound
communication and conflict resolution skills.
And that's exactly what I teach couples everyday.
Introducing
Stop Fighting!
without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs
9-week private comprehensive communication + conflict resolution training program for couples who are ready to stop fighting and love each other better.
Inside the Stop Fighting! private coaching program for couples,
you and your partner will receive step-by-step, expert instruction, support, and feedback, so that you both master the game-changing tools of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and know exactly how to shift from conflict to connection.
STEP ONE: Understand Your Own Reactions + Triggers
Identify and understand your own feelings + needs whenever you're triggered, so you can express yourself clearly (without blame) and actually get heard.
STEP TWO: Develop Exceptional Listening Skills
Listen in a way that creates deeper empathy + connection and gives you both the experience of being seen, heard, and understood - even when you disagree.
STEP THREE: Transform Complaints into Empowered Requests
Bring up any issue you have with your partner and ask for what you want in an empowered and connecting way, so you have productive conversations and finally get your needs met.
STEP FOUR: Navigate Conflict Confidently as a Team
Address conflicts directly in a way that leads to more closeness, collaboration, and creative solutions, so you can get on with living your best life together.
Client Testimonial
It has been transformational for our relationship.
"I recommend this program 100%. I feel it has been transformational for our relationship. We have always had a lot of good in our relationship, but I was avoiding the difficult parts because I didn't like fights. Neither of us enjoyed fighting, but traditional communication patterns kept putting us there. This program has given us the process we needed to communicate and navigate conflict without fighting. I now feel very proud of us for how we handle hard issues. Ali had such a kind and generous presence in the process. We always looked forward to meeting with her. Plus, she really knows what she is doing. Having a coach to help sort out the issues as they came up was so helpful."
April
Feel happy together again.
You and your partner got together because you enjoyed each other's company, and eventually you fell in love and created a life together.
Somewhere along the way, the person with whom you experienced the most joy became the person with whom you now experience the most strife.
You're tired of the fighting, the withdrawing, the tension. You miss your person, and would love to figure out how to feel closer and happy together again.
What if the problem wasn't you, wasn't your partner, and wasn't even your relationship?
What if the problem is that you just never learned how to effectively communicate and navigate conflict?
If you're like many couples, when issues arise in your relationship, you don't know how to work together to resolve them. Instead, you lash out or pull away, thinking your only options are to get into a fight or sweep it under the rug.
But the good news is there is a third option, and that is what Nonviolent Communication (NVC) offers and what you'll begin to master in this program.
When you learn these powerful communication + conflict resolution tools and integrate them into your relationship, you transform your bond from the inside out.
Not only will your relationship feel completely upleveled, but you will feel like a whole new person -- in the best way.
With NVC at the core of your relationship, you'll outgrow the escalating arguments & heavy feeling that your partner doesn't understand you.
Instead, you'll feel closer to your partner than ever before.
Client Testimonial
.The amount of arguing and tension in our house is down by at least 75%.
"The work we did together through the fall has made a huge difference. The amount of arguing and tension in our house is down by at least 75% and N and I have been really enjoying each other's company. I can also tell that our kids are feeling less stressed. I am grateful to you for your help in getting to a more peaceful and joyful place in our family. As I'm sure you know, when things are feeling sweeter at home, all of life feels way better."
D.
Here's what you get inside the
Stop Fighting!
private coaching program for couples:
NVC for Couples Training + Support
A comprehensive training course to root your relationship in the game-changing skills + principles of Nonviolent Communication, plus three private Implementation Sessions (50 minutes each) to help you and your partner apply what you're learning as you go.
Customized Coaching
The training portion is followed by 6 deep-dive private coaching sessions (50 minutes each) to get expert support, guidance, and feedback as you apply your new tools to your unique relationship. You'll complete a Conflict Clarity Questionnaire, and then we'll work through one of your relationship challenges from start to finish so you get unstuck and can replicate the process on your own anytime.
Conflict Roadmap
Learn Ali's signature Heart-Centered Conflict Navigation Roadmap so you know exactly what to do next time you're in conflict. We'll walk through it together so you gain confidence in navigating any conflict in a productive way.
Custom Action Plans
Leave each coaching session with a Custom Action Plan for exactly what you'll do between meetings to deepen your learning and improve your relationship. It will help you track your progress and stay focused on creating the relationship of your dreams.
Between-Session Support
When challenges or questions arise between our meetings, you can email Ali anytime for coaching over email. You'll have a communication coach in your pocket the whole time!
Practice + Accountability
Embody and deepen your new skills with carefully crafted exercises, discussion prompts, and practice suggestions, so you can build new habits and create lasting change.
Comprehensive Workbooks
Enhance your learning, integration, and implementation process with two detailed, comprehensive workbooks. Keep them to refer to anytime you need a reminder or want to go deeper.
Client Testimonial
Greater connection through the struggles of being together.
"I believe our marriage was greatly helped by Ali as my wife and I became better equipped to handle the conflicts that come up in our relationship. We now feel more at ease as we have some tools to address conflict and actually bring greater connection through the struggles of being together. Now my partner and I are on the same page in approaching conflict with less fear of it escalating."
David
Frequently Asked Questions
The program length is typically 9 weeks from start to finish, with meetings held weekly.
This timeframe allows couples enough time to move through the materials step by step and to get support applying what you learn along the way, while also getting results quickly.
When you're fighting with your partner or otherwise disconnected, I know how stressful and urgent it feels to make improvements quickly, so I intentionally made the program as efficient as I could make it while also making it comprehensive enough that your relationship truly transforms from the inside out in a sustainable way.
I've never heard of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). What is it?
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) was developed by psychologist and mediator, Marshall Rosenberg, who was inspired by many wise folks including Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., and Carl Rogers. Some people call it Compassionate Communication. I like to call it Heart-Centered Communication.
NVC is much more than a communication and conflict resolution tool. Rooted in a belief that all human beings have the same universal needs and that everything we do and say is an attempt to meet needs, NVC is a powerful set of principles and tools that will elevate your emotional intelligence and show you the "how to" of mature relating.
More than any other approach I've encountered in my 20+ years in the therapy field, NVC helps couples move out of the fruitless fighting cycle into fulfilling connection.
NVC will help you honor your own needs, honor your partner's needs, and find win-win solutions that attend to all of your needs, so that you both feel cared for and satisfied in the relationship. This isn't about blame, fault-finding, or pointing the finger - it's about seeing, hearing, and understanding each other so you can reconnect heart-to-heart and get on with doing what you do best: loving each other.
I've been practicing and teaching NVC since 2006, and I've found that NVC is THE missing link for most couples. You won't learn it in most couples therapy (which I'm trying to change!). It has helped my clients achieve not only better communication and conflict resolution skills, but also more peace, passion, and possibilities in their relationships, and I can't wait to teach it to you inside this program!
Is this couples therapy?
Nope. This is private coaching with a clear structure, a stream-lined framework, and a focus on skill-building.
You’ll learn the tools, practice them, and apply them to your real-life challenges with my support.
As a licensed therapist, I know the difference, and this program is designed to move you forward fast, with clarity and confidence.
I'm so glad you want to do it! Yay!
The first step is to fill out the application here, and I'll be in touch asap!
If it doesn't seem like a good fit, I'll tell you why and offer alternative options. If it seems like a good fit, we'll hop on a free consultation call to discuss exactly how you and your partner can make the most of this program.
After you both say yes, you'll gain access to the program curriculum, and you'll start learning NVC right away! We'll also schedule your three private implementation and six private coaching sessions so you're supported every step of the way.
Once you register, you'll receive a comprehensive assessment form, so that I can tailor the program to meet you exactly where you're at. This isn't a once-size-fits-all program - it's customized to get you the results your heart is longing for.
And then you'll have a devoted couples communication coach in your pocket for 9 weeks, while I'm laser-focused on helping you and your partner stop fighting and love each other better. Let's go!
I talk to lots of people in this situation, so do not fear!
If you're interested and your partner isn't right now, I've found it most helpful for us (you and me) to talk, so we can see what could be most helpful for you right now. Sometimes that leads to couples coaching, and sometimes we end up working 1:1. I'm open to meeting you where you're at and seeing how I can best support you.
Fill out the application and I'll be in touch!
The total price for this exclusive 9-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples is currently $2,997 per couple.
You can pay in full, or in 2-3 monthly installments with no additional fees.
Meet Your Coach
Hi, I'm Ali Miller. I am a Certified Couples Communication Clini-Coach® and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. My mission is helping people love themselves and each other better.
As an NVC-based therapist, consultant, teacher, and coach, I've helped hundreds of couples just like you strengthen their relationship by learning how to communicate effectively and compassionately, especially through hard times.
With over two decades' experience as a couples therapist and nearly as long as an NVC practitioner, I designed this Private Coaching Program for Couples to give you the most transformative and potent practices I know for creating radically loving, caring, and fulfilling relationships.
My superpower and passion is helping couples communicate in ways that allow them to get to the heart of the matter faster, so you can stop fighting and get on with doing what you do best: loving each other.
Client Testimonial
Massive relief of feeling truly understood.
"My husband and I have spent years circling the same arguments. In each session with Ali, we would tackle an entrenched issue and, using the tools of NVC, move through them quickly and end each session with the massive relief of feeling truly understood."
Dee
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